Unfortunately, a lot of men have thought the same thing. As a result, most online dating sites are flooded with guys. That means that women on these sites often get dozens, sometimes even hundreds of emails every single week.

The majority of guys who try online dating don’t end up meeting anyone. However, there’s a small minority of guys on these online dating websites who are constantly being contacted by women. It’s like having an endless stream of girls who want to date and hookup with you, with very little work required.

Dave M’s “Insider Internet Dating” product  teaches you how to become one of those guys who has rock star success on internet dating. You’ll be able to do this by mastering just a few of the most important online dating fundamentals.

Writing a Profile That Pops

One of the most important factors to online dating success is your profile. Most profiles on internet dating sites are factual and boring. Guys try to list their resumes and convince women that they’re the right pick.

That just doesn’t excite women.

Dave M teaches you to write profiles that actually turn women on. You’ll learn how to tap into her instinctual drives to be with a confident, attractive and adventurous man. You’ll learn how to showcase the unique things about your personality in a way that piques her interest.

Choosing or Creating Stellar Photos

Women, like men, place a lot of weight on photos. Women will look at your photos and make snap judgments about who you are and whether or not they’re attracted to you.

In short, if you want to meet hot women online, you need to have a photo that will instantly draw a woman’s attention.

Dave M will tell you exactly what you should look for as you go through your photos. Or you can take brand new photos using Dave M’s criteria. Once you have the photos up, you’ll find that your profile view count will quickly shoot up and you’ll have women contacting you rather than the other way around.

The Art of Making Contact

Making contact with a woman on an internet dating site can be very tricky. Women usually get so many messages that they won’t even respond. In order to get women to open your messages, read your profile and then respond to you, you need to really stand out.

Dave M shows you how to do this both theoretically and with a ton of real examples. He shows you how to catch attention, as well as how to create attraction all with the first email.

You’ll get a bunch of real examples of emails that have worked for Dave, including emails that you can simply copy and paste and personalize.

Dave has tested hundreds of different emails. Instead of having to repeat all this work, you’ll just have the best of the best results all at your fingertips.

Getting Phone Numbers & Using the Phone

Moving from online dating to talking to a girl is an important step. A lot of guys have trouble with it however. They often feel nervous both about asking a girl for her phone number and on the actual phone call.

Dave M helps you through these issues and makes the whole process brain dead simple. He’ll show you exactly when the right time is to ask for the phone number, how to ask for the phone number and what to say when you’re actually on the phone.

Girl use the phone to feel out whether or not there’s an inkling of chemistry and connection before meeting you on a date. If you can make a strong impression, she’ll show up on the date with you already excited and eager.

What to Do On the Date

Online dating dates can be awkward. Two people meet up with one another, often already knowing all the facts about one another from their profiles. Yet they still know almost nothing about one another. Since all the normal conversational topics (“what do you do? Where are you from?”) are already covered, it can be very easy to stall.

The Insider Internet Dating course has a very interesting section on dates that shows you how to create spark and riveting conversations. Instead of feeling tense or awkward, you’ll be able to flow naturally from topic to topic, while being playful and flirtatious at the same time.

Dave M also talks about how to get her back to your place and how to move the date forward. You’ll learn how to turn a phone number from an online dating site into a sexual relationship or a girlfriend.

The Bonuses

In addition to the main product, Insider Internet Dating also comes with a few great bonuses.

You have the “feet to the fire” Q&A session, where Dave M answers all the most common questions about the Insider Internet Dating system. If you have a question, chances are it’s already been covered in this call.

You also get a workbook and blueprint. These are essentially the text versions of the audio & visual program, along with a step-by-step process clearly laid out for you to follow.

The “personality profiling” bonus helps you identify what kind of personality a woman most likely has, based just on her profile. You can use this information to figure out if you’ll hit it off and to tailor your opening message.

You also get two interviews, one called the “Naked Truth” and the other called the “30 Minute Meetup.” Both of these interviews feature guys who are extremely successful with women revealing their secrets, including how they meet women and what sets them apart.

The Insider Internet Dating system takes the previously murky arena of internet dating and demystifies it. If you’ve wanted to meet girls on the internet but haven’t cracked the code yet, Insider Internet Dating can bring you all the answers you’ve been looking for.

The Tao of Badass doesn’t teach you to be a jerk. It doesn’t teach you pickup lines. It doesn’t teach you anything artificial that you might feel incongruent about. Instead, it teaches you how to transform yourself into a powerful, attractive man that women will naturally be attracted to.

So what exactly will you learn from the Tao of Badass?

What Attracts Women

Women aren’t attracted by clever lines or artificial behaviors. There’s a reason that most men who try these kinds of pickup lines don’t get the kind of success they’re looking for.

Instead, women are looking for characteristics in men that show they’re confident, self-expressed and living a life of their own creation. Joshua goes into detail on how to become this kind of person.

How to Approach a Woman

The only way you’ll ever go from not knowing a woman to knowing her and possibly sleeping with her and/or having a relationship with her is to start a conversation.

Most men have a lot of trouble with this. What do you say to a woman? What’s she thinking when you come up to her? What’s the best way to make a strong impression?

Joshua answers all these questions and more.

How to Destroy Approach Anxiety

Approaching a woman can be nerve wrecking. There are all kinds of self-preserving instincts that kick in. All your intuition will be screaming for you not to do it. Yet, if you really want the kind of sex and dating life you’ve always dreamed of with women, you’re going to have to learn how to get over approach anxiety.

Joshua spends a considerable amount of time on the subject. He talks about why approach anxiety happens and exactly how you can eliminate it from your life for good.

Be Yourself, Be Attractive

This book has a major focus on self-expression. Not just self-expression in any sense, but being expressive in your best self, your most confident self.

This book does not teach you to put on a façade. It doesn’t teach you to hide who you are. Rather, it teaches you how to grow who you are and express who you are.

This book has a much more long term outlook than most dating guides. It’s designed to help you consistently create incredible interactions with women that last, rather than clever lines that get a girl to laugh for 5 minutes then fizzle out.

Know When She’s Interested

Another important aspect of dating and seduction is recognizing when a girl is into you. Women almost never come up and say that they’re attracted to a guy. Instead, they give hints and signals. As a guy, you need to be able to read those signals.

Once you know what to look for, it becomes crystal clear when a woman is into you. On the other hand, if you don’t know what to look for, you’ll be completely clueless when it comes to figuring out whether or not she likes you.

Joshua will show you all the signs that a woman displays when she’s into you, so you can instantly recognize the attraction when it’s there.

Understand Women’s Filtering Mechanisms

There are a handful of things you can do that’ll quickly land you in a danger zone. These zones include “The Friend Zone” or “The Creepy Guy” zone.

Once you’re in one of these zones, there’s essentially no way out. You’ll never convince a woman that you’re lover material rather than friend material. You’ll never convince a woman that you’re not creepy.

Instead, the best way out of these zones is to never land in them in the first place. Joshua shows you how women’s filtering mechanisms work and how you can make sure you don’t get “filtered” into one of these zones.

Four Bonus Guides

The Tao of Badass comes with four bonus guides: “Monogamy vs. Polygamy,” “Never Get Cheated On,” “Escaping the Friend Zone,” and “Guide to Breaking Up.”

The “Monogamy vs. Polygamy” guide will help you navigate dating multiple women or deciding when you want to be with just one. Often time’s men simply choose to follow what society dictates, rather than truly making their own choice.

The “Never Get Cheated On” guide focuses on exactly what it is that keeps women loyal to one guy. The guide ensures that you never display the signals that cause a woman to cheat.

The “Escaping the Friend Zone” guide is perfect for guys who have trouble getting women to view them in a sexual light.

Finally, the “Guide to Breaking Up” will show you how to break up with women in a way that’s amicable for both sides.

Are There Any Downsides to the Book?

The book has just one downside.

At times, it can be rather scientific. Instead of just telling you “This is what to do, Step 1 Step 2 Step 3,” the book spends a lot of time covering the scientific theory of why things are the way they are.

If you’re looking to just get the quick solution, this book might appear a little heavy at times. However, what Joshua’s really trying to do is set you up with solid fundamentals. In order to have solid fundamentals, it really helps to understand why things are the way they are.

To sum things up, the Tao of Badass may be the book for you if you want to be able to fully express who you are and get girls, rather than learn pickup lines and pickup tactics.

It’s not a quick-fix guide, but a detailed step by step guide to a complete transformation in your dating life.

There are two overall themes in the book.

The first theme is becoming the kind of guy who’s self-validated, rather than seeking validation from women. It shows you how to feel good about yourself. That sense of confidence will emanate from you and women will pick up on it right away. Unlike other books which just touch on the subject, John Alexander’s book goes in depth about how to create this kind of deep transformation.

The second theme is making sure she doesn’t feel like a slut for sleeping with you. Before a girl will sleep with you, she needs to be absolutely certain that neither you nor anyone else will think of her as a slut for coming home with you. This is an incredibly important topic that not enough people address. If you can create a sense of sexual liberty for her, you might be shocked at just how sexually hungry a lot of women are.

Here are some of the specific topics the book covers.

Projecting Dominance

John Alexander tackles the issue of dominance from two different angles in his program.

First he explains how to become a dominant guy. He walks you through exactly why dominance is so attractive to women, then describes in detail how you can develop those qualities for yourself. This is a longer term solution.

For the short term, John put together a list of 24 of the most common submissive characteristics. Exhibiting these characteristics will instantly turn women off. By going through these characteristics, identifying the ones that apply to you and systematically fixing them, you can drastically improve your chances with women virtually overnight.

How to Get Over Insecurities

Everyone has insecurities. It could be over the way you look, about how much money you make, about your health or just about your self-image. Wherever your insecurities come from, there’s a good chance it’s hurting your chances with women.

Women can smell insecurities on men. They don’t consciously think about it, but instantly react to them. Unfortunately, you can’t just tell your insecurities to go away.

John Alexander shows you a unique and highly effective method for getting rid of your insecurities. This will have a permanent positive impact on your relating with women for the rest of your life.

How to Look Incredible

If you asked a woman what she’s looking for in a man, chances are she’ll mention looks (as well as personality.) Looks are important to women, though not the way most guys imagine.

Your looks consist mostly of your body language and how you dress, rather than your physical attributes. Both these factors are things you can change.

In other words, you have the ability to make yourself more physically attractive. How to Become an Alpha Male has an extremely comprehensive section dealing with body language. Implement these tips and you’ll become that guy that women can’t help by look at when he walks in the room.

Learn from Practice Exercises

This book doesn’t just talk about concepts in a theoretically way. Instead, it aims to first give you enough information that the content is firmly ingrained in your mind – Then gives you practical exercises you can perform to improve in various skills.

These are easy to do exercises that you can do from the comfort of your own home. Even though you’re not actively out meeting women, by doing these exercises at home you can rewire your brain so that when you’re out in the real world, it’ll be much easier to perform the task.

Handling Fear of Rejection

Fear of rejection trips guys up more than perhaps anything else. If men weren’t afraid of getting rejected, more men would ask girls out and more men would be getting laid.

However, fear of rejection is a reality. But it can actually work towards your advantage. While all the other guys are afraid of taking action, you can swoop in and take the girl – As long as you’re not afraid of rejection yourself.

How do you become impervious to rejection? John Alexander describes exactly how he handled his own fear of rejection and gives you a step by step plan to do the same.

Guide to Relationships

Most dating guides stop at the point where you hookup with a girl for the first time. How to Become an Alpha Male goes a step further.

Most men don’t want to just sleep with a girl once. They want to keep hooking up with her again. Or they want a relationship. Or they want to be dating multiple girls at once.

John Alexander shows you how to create each of these different relationships. He talks about what it is that satisfies women in a more long term sense, as well as all the big pitfalls to avoid.

The Book: Overall

Overall John Alexander’s book focuses much more on the core fundamentals than pickup lines. The book takes a more “inside out” inner game based approach.

The book goes into some very deep psychological stuff that few people are willing to or are able to touch on. If you want to really change how women respond to you, not just in one interaction but in every interaction with a hot girl for the rest of your life, How to Become an Alpha Male will be an invaluable resource.

The only one downside to How to Become an Alpha Male is its design and marketing. The book cover looks a little cheesy, with a girl posing in the front, and the salesletter looks very cheesy with bold red letters all over the place. Don’t let that fool you: The content contained within its covers is solid gold.

Bottom line; How to Become an Alpha Male contains a proven system for overcoming your insecurities and knowing how to projection a confident attitude that women absolutely love!

If you’re talking to a woman and you’re not sure if she’s into you, what can you do? You can start looking for signs. There are a few signs that women consistently show when they’re flirting or interested.

Keep in mind that these signs aren’t 100% accurate, but they’ll give you a very good idea of whether or not she’s into you. Some women will display signs of attraction to every man they meet, whether she’s genuinely into you or not. Other women are extremely shy and will only display a couple signs even if she’s infatuated.

Instead of looking for signs of attraction as if you’re looking for poker tells in a high stakes game, the key is to just pay attention to the overall vibe. Does it “feel” like she’s flirting with you? If the answer is yes and you see at least one or two of the women flirting signs listed below, then assume she’s attracted to you.

Broad Signs of Flirting

A few broad signs that a woman is flirting with you include:

• Touch. If a woman is touching you, she’s almost always interested in you. The only exception is if you’ve already established a “friend zone” over a few different interactions. If this is one of your first interactions and she’s touching you, you can very confidently interpret that as sexual interest.
• Eye contact. There are a few different ways women can use eye contact to signal interest. If you haven’t started a conversation yet and she makes eye contact with you twice, she’s interested, as that never happens by accident. If you’re in a conversation and she’s looking at you sideways or slyly, she’s probably interested in you.
• Attention to lips. If she’s licking her lips (subtly) while she’s talking to you, she’s probably interested in you. If she’s eyeing your lips, she’s also probably interested in you.
• Compliments. If she tells you she likes your shirt, says “you’re so funny,” or gives you any other kind of compliment, she’s probably interested in you. Ask yourself: How often would you compliment another guy out of the sheer goodness of your heart? Probably rarely. The same is true with women – If she’s complimenting a guy, it’s because she wants you to know she’s interested.

Specific Signs of Interest

In addition to these broad signs, there are a few more women flirting signs you should be aware of.

• Smoothing out clothing. If she’s tidying herself up in your presence, she’s probably interested.
• Hair fiddling, hair flipping, hair touching or hair stroking. This can be a flirtatious gesture, or just a nervous gesture from being in the presence of someone she’s attracted to.
• Holding her hands near her breasts.
• Scanning you up and down.
• Open body language. If her wrists and hands are facing towards you, or if her hips are facing towards you in an unguarded way, she’s probably interested.
• Laughing at everything you say, even if it’s not objectively funny.
• Dilated pupils. This can be a great indicator if you can spot it. Sometimes lighting doesn’t allow you to use this indicator; but if you can see her pupils and tell they’re dilated, you’re in.

These are some of the many signs that women show when she’s attracted to a man. Remember: Don’t spend your time in conversation counting signs of interest. If you find just one or two, assume she’s interested in you and move the interaction forward.

Unlike men however, looks are not the major factor. A man might look at a woman and see her face, her body, her figure, her hair or any number of other features and instantly decide if he’s attracted to her or not. A woman does the same thing – Except what she looks for isn’t physical attributes.

So what is it that attracts women?

It’s Not What You Think

There are three common strategies men try to employ when they’re trying to attract a woman.

The first is the money strategy. There’s a commonly held belief that money creates attraction. This simply isn’t true. In fact, attractive women who frequent high class bars will regularly be approached by wealthy men – And turn them down.

The second strategy is body. Men think that in order to be attractive, they need to have bodybuilder-like good looks. Again, this simply isn’t true. While looks can create some degree of attraction, by and large women are drawn to other factors.

The third strategy is the “friends first” strategy. Men try to draw a woman in by becoming friends, becoming her confidant in hopes that someday it will turn into something more. Unfortunately, this strategy tends to completely kill any sexual attraction.

Conventional wisdom offers terrible advice on what attracts women. So what is it, really?

What Women Are Attracted To: Characteristics

What women are actually drawn to are masculine characteristics. These characteristics bring out her feminine side. She feels like a woman when she’s around someone who exudes these attributes. What are they?

Dominance – Women like to be around men who can take charge. In their professional and personal lives, women like to be treated as equals. However, in a sexual interaction, women usually like to be led and dominated. Projecting dominance helps tap into this natural instinct.

Expertise – Women like to be around men who are good at what they do. It doesn’t matter what it is: You could be a leading nuclear physicist, or a great basketball player. You could be an expert in international banking or a lead guitarist. It’s not the actual skill that matters, women just want to be around winners.

Purposeful – Women like to be around men who have a mission. It’s part of a woman’s personality to want to be supportive. She wants to help you achieve whatever it is that you want to achieve in life.

Free Thinker – Women want to be around men who have their own opinions. Men who aren’t afraid to go against the grain. Men who can take a myriad of ideas and form their own conclusions. Women want to be around men who formulate their own identities, rather than try to blend into the masses.

Goes for What He Wants – Women want to be around men who aren’t afraid to take what they want. This applies to your career, but it also applies to how you treat a woman. One big factor in what attracts women is that they want to feel like you’ll be willing to fight for her. This might be the one thing that Hollywood did get right.

Developing and conveying these characteristics will get you much further with women than any one magic “line” or pickup tactic. If you can become the kind of man women want to be around and convey those characteristics quickly in a conversation, attracting women will suddenly become easy.

Texting can help keep the sexual tension alive. It can be quick – Literally one text a day or 30 seconds a day can be enough to keep the spark burning in between dates.

Here are a few text flirting tips to help you use texts as a tool for building quick attraction.

Use Call Back Humor

When you first met the girl, chances are you made jokes about something. You might have teased her about the teddy bear she still keeps from her childhood. Or you might have joked about how she looks like a skinny version of a chubby actor.

Whatever the case, you can use call back humor to call on the jokes you made when you first met. To use the first example, something like “Hey teddy bear lover” will instantly remind her of all the fun you had in the initial conversation.

Remember that when you text a girl during the day, she’ll be in a different mood than she was when she met you. Call back humor will help bring her back to those positive feelings.

Keep it Fun and Playful

Texts are not the place for having deep conversations. They aren’t the place to get to know one another, or to ask super-deep questions. Texts should be fun, they should be playful, they should be flirtatious.

Use texts to get a girl to keep associating positive and sexy feelings to you. Don’t use it to get to know her. Texts can help you get a girl on the phone or on a date, which is when you should have those deep soul-connecting conversations.

Keep Her Wanting More

Don’t text her too often. Texts should be used to keep her excited and slightly on the edge about what’s going on. If you send too many texts, it could seem like you care too much – Or it could even come off a little needy.

However, if you get in a texting volley, that can actually be a good thing. A couple quick texts going back and forth can build a lot of sexual tension or teasing. Sometimes it makes sense to respond quickly, at other times it makes sense to leave her hanging a little.

A Few Example Texts

What does this actually look like in practice? Here are a few examples.

“Miss me yet?” – Helps create a being chased frame.

“You won’t believe who looks like you.” – Creates curiosity. Doesn’t create sexual tension, but helps get her to text back the firs time.

“Have you told all your friends about me already?” Playful yet mildly flirtatious, helps get a conversation started.

You can also update her on some of the great things going on in your life. For example:

“Wow, you won’t believe what I just did” – Starts a good storyline. You can also keep her in suspense until you talk on the phone.

“I just went diving. Wish you could have been here!” Gives her a preview of what hanging out with you could be like.

Use it to Arrange Logistics

Finally, text messaging can be used to arrange logistics. They can be used to setup a phone call, confirm a date or sometimes even setup a date.

Whenever you’re using texts to setup logistics, try to get her in a flirtatious mood first. For example, you might fire off one of the texts above, let her respond and with something witty before saying that you’ll give her a call tonight.

Text messages are a very versatile tool in the dating realm. They can be used to remind her of you, used to create sexual tension, to flirt and to arrange phone calls and dates. Learning these text flirting tips can help you turn the phone numbers you get into sexy dates.

Flirting isn’t difficult. In fact, great flirting is extremely simple. Here are a few extremely simple yet highly flirting tips for guys to help.

1. Lead the Conversation

Always lead the conversation. Never rely on the woman to carry the conversation; as that’s a surefire recipe for disaster. Instead, be willing to guide women through a variety of different topics.

Learn how to lead her through different kinds of conversation. For example, start off with something flirtatious and interesting. Then perhaps switch to an interesting general topic. Then back to something flirtatious with a little bit of touching. Then switch to getting to know each other.

Have “default” topics to talk about in different kinds of situations. This helps ensure that you never run out of things to say.

2. Learn to Push and Pull

Pushing a woman away, then pulling her back in is the quitessential definition of flirting. The “you want it but you can’t have it yet” energy creates a lot of sexual tension.

In almost every TV show or romantic movie, there’s a couple who’re destined to be with one another – But for some reason, they can’t. In “Gone with the Wind,” it’s because she has cancer. In “Pretty Woman,” it’s because he’s a businessman and she’s an escort.

Push pull helps create this kind of tension. You let her know she’s interested, but she can’t quite have you yet. Tease her while every once in a while letting her know that you’re interested.

3. Touch Early

Touching a girl doesn’t have to be awkward. In fact, if you start casual touching early, it’ll simply become a part of the conversation.

Within the first 30 seconds of starting a conversation, make a mild touch. It could be on her hand, her shoulder or her back, just something very casual as you emphasize a point. You could also give a high-five for a conversation highlight.

This helps break down the touch barrier early. Also, if you do it right off the bat, she’ll just think that that’s how you are. If you want half an hour before touching a woman, when you finally do she’ll think: “Oh, he’s making a move.”

If you do it early, she won’t make a big deal of it.

4. Talk Loudly

This is especially important if you’re in a bar or a club, but applies generally as well. Talk loudly.

Powerful men aren’t afraid of being heard. They speak just slightly louder than the normal person. This conveys comfort with yourself, as well as confidence in general.

Don’t be so loud that you’re obnoxious. But a woman should never have trouble hearing what you have to say. You should never seem ashamed of what you say. By being loud, you project that you’re proud of whatever it is you’re saying.

5. Be Self Expressed

Self-expression is attractive. Simply put, self-expression is allowing your full personality to come out without caring about what others think.

For some people, their most attractive personality is when they’re talking about music. It’s what they know. For others, it’s when they’re joking around talking about nothing much at all. For others still, it’s when they’re talking about their love of their job. Whatever the case may be, whatever you’re passionate about, don’t be afraid to show it.

Don’t try to keep all these flirting tips for guys in your head when you’re meeting women. Instead, just pick one each night and apply it. This will help you internalize these tips so you can use them in conversation without thinking about it.

These online flirting tips will help. Here’s how to not only create connection, but attraction and curiosity.

Start With Your Photos

Women are very similar to men in the way they treat photos on dating sites. They’ll take a look at your photos and instantly judge whether or not they’re interested in you. Women can tell a lot about a man from just a few photos. Does he know how to dress? Is he a confident person? Am I physically attracted?

When you’re choosing photos, try to create a dynamic mix. For example, one might be of you with your friends on the beach, another photo might be you in a business suit teaching a seminar. Try to put photos of you that show different aspects of your personality.

And of course, only put up photos that make you look great. Have a professional photographer do your photos if possible.

Before You Initiate Contact

Before you send her anything, read her profile carefully.

Women hate getting generic messages. It’s very common for men to “blast” out messages that aren’t personalized at all. This is a surefire way to get turned down.

Instead, read her profile carefully. Note anything that you can comment on. In addition to noting facts, also try to get a sense for her overall personality and who she is as a person.

What to Say When Making Contact

The two most important things in your message are your subject line and the first sentence of your email. If your subject line and first sentence don’t get her curious, she won’t pay much attention to the rest of your message.

Your subject line should try to “break” rapport instead of “seek” rapport. In other words, try to tease her a little right off the bat. This will help your message stand out from the dozen other messages in her inbox.

For example:

Bad: I Like Star Wars Too!
Good: Did You Really Watch Star Wars 9 Times?

Bad: The Alchemist is My Favorite Book Too
Good: Wow, you really seem to read *a lot*!

Of course, you can’t keep up the teasing tone throughout your entire email. But by breaking rapport in the subject instead of trying to find commonality, you get her curious enough to open your email. She’ll think – “Who is this guy?”

The Contents of Your Email

Your email should do a few things. First, it should set a flirtatious context to the conversation. Second, it should start moving things forward to an in person meet as quickly as possible.

It’s very common for guys to start exchanging information through online dating messages. Things like “where are you from?” “what are you studying?” “where do you work?” and so on.

While it’s okay to exchange a bit of information, this can quickly turn the vibe of the conversation from flirtatious to job interview.

Instead, try to establish a rhythm of both mild teasing and complimenting. Tell her that you love the fact that she can cook, but tease her lightly for something else. Flirt with her, don’t just exchange information.

Every email should move towards an in person meeting. For example, after the first message, you might ask for her IM contact so you can chat in real time. Then you might ask for her phone number so you can talk. Then arrange an in person meet.

Don’t spend weeks talking on the online dating site. Not only is this a waste of time, it sends the signal that you don’t have the balls to go for what you want. Instead, always try to move the interaction towards an in person meeting. Women want to know the interaction is going somewhere as well.

If you follow these online flirting tips, you’ll be able to consistently generate attraction with women online and meet them in person for dates.

Here are a few of the most important things to learn on how to turn on women.

Get Comfortable Talking About Sex

Get comfortable talking about sex. Be willing to talk about what it’s like to be in bed with a woman, about specific sexual techniques, or about taboo subjects in general.

There’s a lot of social pressure against talking about sex. If you’re comfortable with talking about sex, this shows women that you’re not afraid to break out of convention. It also shows women that you’re sexually comfortable, which is very attractive in and of itself.

Don’t be lewd. Don’t try to bring it up unnaturally. Again, the key is just to be casually comfortable with the subject.

Combine Fun with Sexuality

Women love to be around guys who are fun. However, they don’t want to be around men who’re just comedic without sexuality. That’s a quick shortcut to the friend zone.

On the other hand, women also don’t want to be around men who are just all about sex. This is both a little creepy as well as empty.

Instead, women want to be around guys who are fun, who make them laugh, who they also see as sexual.

The best way to learn to express humor is to learn how to say the first thing that comes to your mind without filter. If you get in the habit of doing this, your natural humor will start to flow.

Learn to Touch Naturally

Sex is a physical act. You can’t have sex without touching a woman. However, sex is also a progression – You can’t just go from not touching someone at all to having sex.

Instead, touch usually starts with something innocent, like a touch on the arm. Then it moves to something slightly more sexual, like a touch on the back or the leg. Then it progresses even more, perhaps with an arm around the shoulder or holding hands. Then a makeout, and so on.

If you want to turn women on and create more sexuality in your conversations, you need to start opening the physical conversation with women.

Get in the habit of touching women, even if it’s just innocent and passing touches in the beginning.

Be the Catch

Men often treat women as if they were a prize they need to win over. Instead, you should frame the interaction the other way around.

Women are highly conscious of social value, or “who’s cooler than who.” In any social interaction, you should act as if she’s trying to win your approval rather than the other way around.

If you can portray this frame of mind well, women will be all over you.

Create Experiences for Her

Women want men to lead. One great way to do this is to create experiences for her. Come up with ideas of things you’d like to do, then bring her along.

This could be as simple as “hey, let’s go get a drink” or “hey, let’s go to the dance floor.” If you’re on a date, it could mean leading her around a venue or deciding to do something spontaneous. If you’ve been dating for a while, it could mean surprising her with an unusual experience.

Create fun and different experiences for the women in your life. The more adventurous, the better.

Finally, keep in mind that meeting women is a numbers game. Some women won’t be turned on by you no matter what you do. Others will be all over you within a few minutes of meeting you. Learning how to turn on women will help increase the chances of the latter happening.

Once you learn how to be a great kisser, kissing actually becomes very simple and easy. It’ll start to flow into your dates, without you having to think much about it. Here are the most important kissing tips to know about being a great kisser.

How to Know When to Kiss a Girl

This is one of the most frequent questions men ask when it comes to kissing: How do you know when it’s time to kiss the girl?

Ideally, you shouldn’t do it at the end of the date. She’s expecting it, you feel like you’re supposed to and the whole situation just feels pressured and awkward. Instead, kissing should feel fun and spontaneous.

Try to kiss her during the date itself.

The best time to kiss her is when there’s a moment of turn on or excitement. You can create this moment by getting her more physically comfortable with you throughout the night. For example, you might be sitting side by side with her with your legs touching. You might touch or hold her hand at some point in the night.

When the time comes, a part of you will wonder “can I kiss her right now?” When you ask yourself that question, the answer is almost always yes. It should feel natural, but you’ll also never know 100% that she’s ready to be kissed.

Start the kiss by moving physically closer. You can touch her face, her neck or her hair while making eye contact. If she’s making eye contact with you and smiling while you’re close to her and touching her face or her hair, that means she’s definitely ready to be kissed.

Giving Her a Great Kiss

Every woman likes to kiss differently. Some women like to shove their tongues in your mouth right in the outset. Others want to sensually bite your lips. Still others want to lightly kiss your lips with her tongue flicking in and out.

The best way to kiss a woman the way she likes to be kissed is to just reflect what she’s doing. If she quickly puts her tongue in your mouth, do the same. If she’s mostly just kissing your lips, do the same.

The first kiss is one of the few areas in dating where you shouldn’t take the lead. Why? Because if you shove your tongue in a girl’s mouth and that’s not how she likes to be kissed, she’ll feel violated. If you kiss timidly with a girl who likes to kiss aggressively, she’ll feel like you’re not wild enough.

When it comes to the kiss, it’s best to first gauge the girl’s “style” before engaging fully.

During and After the Kiss

During the first kiss, don’t try to physically escalate. Don’t try to put your hands between her thighs or try to turn the interaction extremely sexual. This could put her on the defensive. Save the sexual stuff for when you’re in the bedroom.

Always pull away first. Keep her wanting more. Tease her a little. A kiss that goes on too long gets a little boring. Pull away before that happens.

Finally, don’t forget the rest of your body. A kiss doesn’t just happen in the lips. Stroke her hair, touch her face, hold her hands. Use the rest of your body to turn up the connection and sensuality.

That’s how you know when it’s time to kiss a girl, as well as how to give a girl a phenomenal kiss. These kissing tips will help you give her a date she’ll always remember.