Texting is a much more casual and fun way of re-establishing contact with a girl. Talking on the phone can feel like there’s a lot of pressure. On the other hand, texting can feel easy, fun and spontaneous.
Texting can help keep the sexual tension alive. It can be quick – Literally one text a day or 30 seconds a day can be enough to keep the spark burning in between dates.
Here are a few text flirting tips to help you use texts as a tool for building quick attraction.
Use Call Back Humor
When you first met the girl, chances are you made jokes about something. You might have teased her about the teddy bear she still keeps from her childhood. Or you might have joked about how she looks like a skinny version of a chubby actor.
Whatever the case, you can use call back humor to call on the jokes you made when you first met. To use the first example, something like “Hey teddy bear lover” will instantly remind her of all the fun you had in the initial conversation.
Remember that when you text a girl during the day, she’ll be in a different mood than she was when she met you. Call back humor will help bring her back to those positive feelings.
Keep it Fun and Playful
Texts are not the place for having deep conversations. They aren’t the place to get to know one another, or to ask super-deep questions. Texts should be fun, they should be playful, they should be flirtatious.
Use texts to get a girl to keep associating positive and sexy feelings to you. Don’t use it to get to know her. Texts can help you get a girl on the phone or on a date, which is when you should have those deep soul-connecting conversations.
Keep Her Wanting More
Don’t text her too often. Texts should be used to keep her excited and slightly on the edge about what’s going on. If you send too many texts, it could seem like you care too much – Or it could even come off a little needy.
However, if you get in a texting volley, that can actually be a good thing. A couple quick texts going back and forth can build a lot of sexual tension or teasing. Sometimes it makes sense to respond quickly, at other times it makes sense to leave her hanging a little.
A Few Example Texts
What does this actually look like in practice? Here are a few examples.
“Miss me yet?” – Helps create a being chased frame.
“You won’t believe who looks like you.” – Creates curiosity. Doesn’t create sexual tension, but helps get her to text back the firs time.
“Have you told all your friends about me already?” Playful yet mildly flirtatious, helps get a conversation started.
You can also update her on some of the great things going on in your life. For example:
“Wow, you won’t believe what I just did” – Starts a good storyline. You can also keep her in suspense until you talk on the phone.
“I just went diving. Wish you could have been here!” Gives her a preview of what hanging out with you could be like.
Use it to Arrange Logistics
Finally, text messaging can be used to arrange logistics. They can be used to setup a phone call, confirm a date or sometimes even setup a date.
Whenever you’re using texts to setup logistics, try to get her in a flirtatious mood first. For example, you might fire off one of the texts above, let her respond and with something witty before saying that you’ll give her a call tonight.
Text messages are a very versatile tool in the dating realm. They can be used to remind her of you, used to create sexual tension, to flirt and to arrange phone calls and dates. Learning these text flirting tips can help you turn the phone numbers you get into sexy dates.
January 4, 2012
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