Learning to be a great kisser is one of the most important dating skills you can learn. Women will use your first kiss to gauge what it’s like to be physically intimate with you. If you’re a great kisser, she’ll likely think being in bed with you will be amazing as well. If you’re clumsy during the kiss, she’ll probably assume that you’ll be clumsy in bed.
Once you learn how to be a great kisser, kissing actually becomes very simple and easy. It’ll start to flow into your dates, without you having to think much about it. Here are the most important kissing tips to know about being a great kisser.
How to Know When to Kiss a Girl
This is one of the most frequent questions men ask when it comes to kissing: How do you know when it’s time to kiss the girl?
Ideally, you shouldn’t do it at the end of the date. She’s expecting it, you feel like you’re supposed to and the whole situation just feels pressured and awkward. Instead, kissing should feel fun and spontaneous.
Try to kiss her during the date itself.
The best time to kiss her is when there’s a moment of turn on or excitement. You can create this moment by getting her more physically comfortable with you throughout the night. For example, you might be sitting side by side with her with your legs touching. You might touch or hold her hand at some point in the night.
When the time comes, a part of you will wonder “can I kiss her right now?” When you ask yourself that question, the answer is almost always yes. It should feel natural, but you’ll also never know 100% that she’s ready to be kissed.
Start the kiss by moving physically closer. You can touch her face, her neck or her hair while making eye contact. If she’s making eye contact with you and smiling while you’re close to her and touching her face or her hair, that means she’s definitely ready to be kissed.
Giving Her a Great Kiss
Every woman likes to kiss differently. Some women like to shove their tongues in your mouth right in the outset. Others want to sensually bite your lips. Still others want to lightly kiss your lips with her tongue flicking in and out.
The best way to kiss a woman the way she likes to be kissed is to just reflect what she’s doing. If she quickly puts her tongue in your mouth, do the same. If she’s mostly just kissing your lips, do the same.
The first kiss is one of the few areas in dating where you shouldn’t take the lead. Why? Because if you shove your tongue in a girl’s mouth and that’s not how she likes to be kissed, she’ll feel violated. If you kiss timidly with a girl who likes to kiss aggressively, she’ll feel like you’re not wild enough.
When it comes to the kiss, it’s best to first gauge the girl’s “style” before engaging fully.
During and After the Kiss
During the first kiss, don’t try to physically escalate. Don’t try to put your hands between her thighs or try to turn the interaction extremely sexual. This could put her on the defensive. Save the sexual stuff for when you’re in the bedroom.
Always pull away first. Keep her wanting more. Tease her a little. A kiss that goes on too long gets a little boring. Pull away before that happens.
Finally, don’t forget the rest of your body. A kiss doesn’t just happen in the lips. Stroke her hair, touch her face, hold her hands. Use the rest of your body to turn up the connection and sensuality.
That’s how you know when it’s time to kiss a girl, as well as how to give a girl a phenomenal kiss. These kissing tips will help you give her a date she’ll always remember.
January 4, 2012
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