Within about five minutes of meeting a guy, a woman will decide: Are you in the “friend” category, or the “lover” category? If your flirting skills are up to par, you’ll be able to create spontaneous attraction in women wherever you meet them. If they’re not, you’ll have a hard time getting a woman attracted to you no matter how hard you try.
Flirting isn’t difficult. In fact, great flirting is extremely simple. Here are a few extremely simple yet highly flirting tips for guys to help.
1. Lead the Conversation
Always lead the conversation. Never rely on the woman to carry the conversation; as that’s a surefire recipe for disaster. Instead, be willing to guide women through a variety of different topics.
Learn how to lead her through different kinds of conversation. For example, start off with something flirtatious and interesting. Then perhaps switch to an interesting general topic. Then back to something flirtatious with a little bit of touching. Then switch to getting to know each other.
Have “default” topics to talk about in different kinds of situations. This helps ensure that you never run out of things to say.
2. Learn to Push and Pull
Pushing a woman away, then pulling her back in is the quitessential definition of flirting. The “you want it but you can’t have it yet” energy creates a lot of sexual tension.
In almost every TV show or romantic movie, there’s a couple who’re destined to be with one another – But for some reason, they can’t. In “Gone with the Wind,” it’s because she has cancer. In “Pretty Woman,” it’s because he’s a businessman and she’s an escort.
Push pull helps create this kind of tension. You let her know she’s interested, but she can’t quite have you yet. Tease her while every once in a while letting her know that you’re interested.
3. Touch Early
Touching a girl doesn’t have to be awkward. In fact, if you start casual touching early, it’ll simply become a part of the conversation.
Within the first 30 seconds of starting a conversation, make a mild touch. It could be on her hand, her shoulder or her back, just something very casual as you emphasize a point. You could also give a high-five for a conversation highlight.
This helps break down the touch barrier early. Also, if you do it right off the bat, she’ll just think that that’s how you are. If you want half an hour before touching a woman, when you finally do she’ll think: “Oh, he’s making a move.”
If you do it early, she won’t make a big deal of it.
4. Talk Loudly
This is especially important if you’re in a bar or a club, but applies generally as well. Talk loudly.
Powerful men aren’t afraid of being heard. They speak just slightly louder than the normal person. This conveys comfort with yourself, as well as confidence in general.
Don’t be so loud that you’re obnoxious. But a woman should never have trouble hearing what you have to say. You should never seem ashamed of what you say. By being loud, you project that you’re proud of whatever it is you’re saying.
5. Be Self Expressed
Self-expression is attractive. Simply put, self-expression is allowing your full personality to come out without caring about what others think.
For some people, their most attractive personality is when they’re talking about music. It’s what they know. For others, it’s when they’re joking around talking about nothing much at all. For others still, it’s when they’re talking about their love of their job. Whatever the case may be, whatever you’re passionate about, don’t be afraid to show it.
Don’t try to keep all these flirting tips for guys in your head when you’re meeting women. Instead, just pick one each night and apply it. This will help you internalize these tips so you can use them in conversation without thinking about it.
January 4, 2012
General Flirting Tips